If you're a college student who's facing any disciplinary action, whether it involves academic misconduct, Title IX sexual misconduct, a generally disciplinary issue, and whether what is alleged took place or if it's a false allegation, it's obviously an incredibly difficult time in life. All is not lost though, but you should not be going through it alone. Of course, you're reluctant to tell your parents in many instances, but they're your support system. You should let them know what took place. They can help through what is a difficult time.
You shouldn't be engaging with the school in any capacity without taking the necessary precautions. You do have to take it one step at a time. It's a difficult path forward, but you will make it to the other side especially if you have the right people in your corner. Having an experienced attorney advisor will be a great ally to help you understand and protect your rights and your interests moving forward, and they can help you understand and navigate what is a difficult process. They should be involved as early as possible in the process.